The data conspiracy

When we think about IT security, we think hackers, phishing, not giving out your passwords to anyone (which we almost always do), and passwords of more than 8 characters, in UPPER CASE, lower case and $ymbol$.

However, there's one thing that companies always overlook - data security. Yes, I know, almost all companies make sure they protect their data though encryption, passwords, etc. 

But let's look at this example. Disposal of computers. Let's say company A is disposing their old computers, and let's face it, no sane CTO will let their own guys do it. It takes too much time to pop (in geek speak, degauss) their thousands of hard-disks. They will instead outsource this troublesome, time consuming, snail racing activity and let them handle it. Now we have a third party involved. 

Just imagine, all we need is one person who decides that, "hey, this PC still looks like new, let me bring it home", and whatever measures you've put in place - BAM! All gone. In your inventory, it looks okay, but the data is residing at someone's home. Just by connecting the PC to the internet, and installing a suspicious programme, all your data could very well be in the hands of a malicious user.

This can be a very common scenario and there are simple solutions to avoiding this problem such as making sure the hard disks are wiped prior to moving the PCs out or even separating the PCs and the hard disks, and letting two separate vendors handle them.

Let's not take data/IT security lightly. There are many chains in the process that are easily overlooked. Make sure your firm can protect it's assets and data well.

Faith in Humanity restored

I'm pretty sure that many of you would have heard about the bomb blasts in Boston. What started out as a happy memorable event for them turned sour and tragic by the end of the day. 

Still through this tragedy, we see many "simple and normal" folks who have meet the needs of the victims. They deserve all our applause and gratitude. It's times like these that we see the love that's being poured out to those who need it.

Folks opening up their homes for runners and supporters stuck in Boston, cafes/restaurants/food places giving our free food, the verse love your neighbour as yourself gets personified.

Maybe we should now define humans as "selfish during peace, loving in the midsts of strive".

The Art of Loving a Woman

I chanced upon this post on Facebook by Ricky Tsang, and I was actually quite moved by it.

This article presents the viewpoint of a man (Ricky) who wants to "love" a women, and discovers that romance is, as all men probably would know by now, the best way. However, being diagnosed with Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy, a muscular degeneration disorder affecting about 1 in 36,000 boys (thanks Wikipedia), he is unable to caress the women he loves because he has "no strength in my frail hands to touch her face."

When I read this, I'm am reminded of how blessed I am, to be able to chase skirts, and even capture the girl of my dreams through my actions; either by the works of my hands, or the glib of my mouth.

Ricky goes through all normal human emotions and thought processes, but he is just not able to touch her, to have that intimate connection through physical contact. He explores love and romance through something more than physicality and is able to portray this connection, this emotional, heart tugging connection through his words. 

Here's the article, and hopefully, this will form part of your repertoire of your love to your cherished one.

The Art of Loving a Woman by Ricky Tsang

Sometimes it feels as though I’m in a different dimension. Even with friends and family, I’m still so out of place. I remain alone, yet solitude keeps me calm. It’s cold where I am, this perpetual dream of silence. Like the darkness of outer space, I await for sunlight to find me…

Her: “Ricky, what would you do to me if we were together right now?”

Me: “I’d look into your eyes, gently brushing your hair away. As I gaze into your heart, I’d run my fingers down your cheek; index to your lips. I’d ask you to close your eyes and surrender to the rush of a summer breeze. I’d kiss you as I lower my hands into yours with fingers interlocking.”

But it’s impossible. I’ve no strength in my frail hands to touch her face, as much as I need to make her see and perhaps fall in love with me. How does one reach a woman’s heart without the physical touch? It’s a question I’ve asked myself, time and time again. All I really have is a handful of words to discover this art.

To love a woman is a journey of romance, through even the simplest ways. They say love at first sight is shallow, but if you allow yourself to believe it can only exist without limitations, then and only then will you find the physical extensions of her heart. Her eyes, smile, and touch are capable of bringing you closer, while your destination is to find her at the end of each path.

As you venture through the walls of her heart, you’ll find reason to redefine your redefinition of romance. Before falling, we find comfort in solitude, but as it continues, we learn a need that overpowers every fibre of our beings. The way a woman desires for her man to change is often considered a flaw as acceptance is a significant part of love. However, when you take the time to discover her intentions, it’s about letting her guide you to become the man you were always meant to be.

When you have the desire to understand her, you’ll also find innocence. Aside from romance, she’s so much more. She’s your best friend; someone to share your dreams with, for romance isn’t always the key to finding her heart. It’s the ability to warm her through other means as desire inspires you to make her laugh and cry and dream of beautiful things.

To love a woman is a journey of discovery. Through innocence, you’ll notice splendour in her every move. It’s about finding it within the crevices of her heart, even when she feels a mess. When you acknowledge it’s only her feelings, you’re also acknowledging her beauty, no matter how, when, or where. Remove yourself from the boundaries of common romanticisms and know she’s beautiful the way she is.

What matters is that you’re there for her. It’s to build a connection, and put yourself in her shoes. It’s to make love with and not only to her. When she’s with child, you must recognize she isn’t pregnant alone.

One day, when you find her falling upon your arms in a moment of weakness, it’s about giving her wings and hoping for her stay. It’s to show her she’s loved and not only by you.

And when you realize her tears aren’t really tears, but beautiful heart cries instead, that’s when you’ve taken the first step in discovering the art of loving a woman. This is where I am.

If there’s a way to reach a woman’s heart without the touch of my fingertips, I promise that I’ll find it, even if it takes the death of a billion trillion stars. I have to believe it’s a learning process so if ever she comes along, I’ll know how I should bring joy into her life.

https://www.facebook.com/DearRicky/posts/10151605215692306 

sweet sugary love

Donuts... or doughnuts?

That word would probably conjure up this famous image - an overweight policeman, siting in his car, or leaning against his police car, holding a cup of coffee in one hand and a pink sugary crusted donut in the other. Is that what came into your mind?


The reason: Many years ago, 24 hour stores were non-existent. Policemen who worked the night shift would have to wait until the stores opened. Donut shops and coffee joints were typically the first shops to be opened, and that's where all hungry people would go!

Ta-da! now you know the connection between donuts and policemen!

Why do you buy a suit?

3 tips for the suit-starved man...

1) DO NOT, i repeat, DO NOT listen to the person selling you your suit

Remember, his goal is to sell you a suit. It doesn't mean the suit he is selling you fits you perfectly. Granted, most humans are actually nice, but unless you are at a high-end retailer or a tailor, what they recommend usually doesn't well.. cut it. Remember that your body type affects the cut and even material you buy. If in doubt, buy suits made from wool, go for at least 75% or more wool. Actually, just get suits made from at least 75% wool.

Plus, his sense of style is going to be different than yours. You may be looking at a single breasted piece, he may prefer an Italian job. 

2) Ask yourself the reason for buying a suit

The choice of suits depends on the function it is going to perform. If you are going for business meetings, look for what I call a classic suit - single breasted, 2 buttons in either navy blue or black.
 
Don't fret, these suits are can used in a casual setting too.

Or you may want to look like you own the town; a Italian double breasted pinstriped suit.

Of course, if you don't wear it properly, you'd end up looking like a mafia hit man with poor colour co-ordination and mouth full of expletives. Don't forget your tommy gun!

3) Know your size

We all think that we know our size, but actually, not many of us do. A suit fits perfectly, with just a lining of your cuffs showing at your wrist, shoulder pads seated nicely and no bulging areas (i'll close one eye on the tummy), or overly tight areas. The suit should fit perfectly, and not look like you are drowning in it, or bursting at the seams. When buttoned, the suit should not be too tight, and you should have about one fist's worth of space between your chest and the inner lining of the suit. I'll talk more about sizing in another post!

Side note: Some people have asked if this is wool:

 No, a 100 percent NO! It is actually yarn, but some people call them woolen suits. That's where the confusion starts.

This is a wool suit.

 The material's a little... furry if I may use that term, and it may itch initially, but keep wearing it, and it will be oh so comfortable.

So watch out for the next post on sizing, and the actual parts of a suit!

A new year, a new title, a new resolution

Blessed New Year people! It is 2013 for most parts of the world at the time of this writing.

I made a few changes to the blog to give myself more room for writing, not just focusing on what a guy would need and want in terms of.. what they want, but also for me to make comments on certain life changing events that doesn't relate to why men would want. One such example is buying a new pair of soccer boots. Not every guy out there plays soccer, and therefore, they need to be shot.

A leather donut signifies that this blog is a sugary reptilian repulsive black hole, and my blog will represent all that it is in its scaly, heart stopping, glucose rising glory. You'll hopefully see food posts included too, especially when you need to bring your girl out for a lovely evening out. I'd even tell you where to get protection. (Hint, you can call for delivery).

I do apologize for the extremely long absence. I've been busy with work and school, and even though I started quite a few drafts, I never did complete them. My new years resolution is to at the very least, have two articles a month, which by internet blogging standards, is at a speed where you'd watch a blade of grass grow. But unfortunately, much as I'd like to do it once a week, I'd be honest and say that I'm a lazy piece of A**. Yes, I'd rather sit in front of the telly and watch "The Big Bang Theory" and say I Love You to Robin Scherbatsky. Oh hey, How I Met Your Mother is on!

Don't mind me taking this bottle of KY Jelly, and I'll see you sometime soon.

Happy new year every one!

Stay tuned........... and pray that gas prices will drop!

Is the "perfect" trouser real?

A quick guide choosing a "perfect" pair of trouser!

What constitutes a perfect pair of trouser?

Do you hate it when you always step on the cuffs of your trouser? In despair because your too-short trouser reveal your daddy-long-legs lookalike you call leg-hair?

Look no further! Here's a really really quick guide to choosing your trouser.

• Trouser Fit

Nothing screams out unprofessional more than ill fitting trouser. The trouser should be loose enough to be comfortable, but fitting enough that it will not slide off your body on its own. The "perfect" pair of trouser should  follow your body shape; sit nicely just above your waist, tapered all the way to the ankles. I'm sure you won't want to meet your clients looking like this:

• Trouser Length

Ever been to a meeting where one guy always has issues with his trouser? He keeps pulling them up to avoid stepping on the cuffs? Or the other guy from your office who, when crosses his legs you see his leg hair and ankle socks?

Too little break:

Too much break:

Just right:

• Pleats vs pleat-less

Pleats are little folds of fabric that are permanently fixed in place, running from the waistband down to the area where the zipper ends. The purpose of pleats is to add flexibility to the front of the trousers, expanding slightly when the wearer sits or stretches, and keeps the smooth appearance of the trouser without wrinkling and/or tightening. So, the age old question, to pleat or not to pleat? Well, it depends. Skinny men may look sloppy as pleats add layers to the trousers and make the trouser seem too big for them, while bigger sized men may go with pleats for flexibility and comfort. 

I hope this post will help you out a long way in choosing a pair of trousers.